Relationships aren't easy (or are they?)

Feedback wanted on a thought from church today: "Stop having a relationship with Jesus."

It is important to have more than just a relationship with Jesus? Do we instead need to understand "abiding" in Jesus?

I heard it put this way: Many different levels of human interaction can be called a "relationship." You have a relationship with someone you golf or shop or jog with, and you have a relationship with the person you're married too. The levels of closeness differ, but it's all relationship.

"Abiding" however, is what Jesus talked about in John 15. Or like a baby in the womb, who does not just have a relationship with his mother, but cannot exist with her. That baby literally abides within its mother.

It's easy to have a relationship with Jesus- if it means visiting church, praying when I'm sad, singing songs, etc. Abiding is hard, and definitely something I'm struggling with. As the pastor put it this morning, it's possible to live without Jesus if all we want is a relationship.

But what would my life look like if I were abiding in Him?