Why Would I Accept My Worst, Anyway?

There's been an article circulating The Face Book for a couple days that I finally got around to clicking on. The previewed topic greatly interested me.  There's a certain "empowerment" quote I see a lot that has always bothered me but I could never define why.  You'll find out all about it if you follow the link. Thank you to this man for hitting the nail on the head.  

If I Can't Accept You at Your Worst, Then Maybe You Should Stop Being So Horrible

Doesn't it all come down to, treat others as you would want to be treated?  If you would never accept mediocre love and care from a partner or friend, why tell them they have to accept it from you? 

My favourite part of Walsh's argument was this excerpt: 

"Love is a transformative force, and if you want to experience it you better be ready to change in every way imaginable. My wife does not "accept me," and thank God for that. She challenges me. She makes me better. In other words, she loves me.

What kind of a pathetic and dreary goal is that, anyway -- just wanting to be "accepted," tolerated, put up with? That's not why we're put on this planet. Life is not about gaining "acceptance." Life is change. It is not static and stagnant, do you really want your relationships to be?"

Thoughts?  May we strive for more than acceptance...

-DB

Where The New Year Has Found Me

For the first time since I'm-not-sure-when, I have not made any new year's resolutions or changes.  Maybe because 2013 was a year of so much change in my life (husband, house, work, etc.) I'm not really identifying with the "new year, new you" thing that usually launches late December and fizzles throughout January.

Kudos to those of you who are finding and striving towards a "new you"!  Nothing wrong at all with that.  It's nice to have a built-in motivator for our lives at least once a year.  But in my personal journey at the moment, I am being found with exactly the kind of contentment I always hoped for.

Life as a wife in the past 11 months and some odd days has taught me that for both the sake of yourself and your partner changes, goals, and growth have to be encountered daily.  From tasks some times mundane to other times exciting, building a [healthy] home together requires a lot of work.  I can't stop to think about that work only once a year just because the fanfare tells me I should.

For the bloggy friends who don't follow us on other platforms, here is our Christmas 2013 picture.  I wish you happiness and the best YOU you can be in 2014!

~DB

 

Blurbs Pictured

While it's certainly daunting to find the words to share the past five or so months as a newlywed with you, I have pictured here some highlights. Our lovely home we have the pleasure of caring for, my mischievous husband I have the blessing of loving, and the two cuties we adopted.  Factor in my work as administrative support to the children's program at our church and my growing involvement at Everyman Theatre, and the results are exciting and very full days.  To be continued.  

Blurbs Turned Bride

 On January 20th I married my favourite blogger!  Now I am figuring out life as a wedded woman, and enjoying every moment.  Married adventures and a return to regular Blurb blogging will [hopefully] debut soon!

 The gorgeous photography was by the wonderful Joel Ready of Ready Media. Location was Notre Dame of Maryland University, in the beautiful Marikle Chapel of the Annunciation.